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After getting angry..we should try this..meditation?

7:29 PM, Saturday 31 May 2008 .. Posted in General .. 4 comments .. Link

Bulletin:
Note : Not Spamming but Reposting this lovely words I came across my luvable Fren Abdul razak M Tagged Site as my Charitable Service to all my Luvable
To forgive someone for their mistake is an art of living because the act of pardoning the individual can be healing and magical. The deed eases our heart, frees our mind and moves us to a higher conscious level.

It is normal for everyone to get hurt by friends, colleagues, relatives or family members at some point of time owing to their actions, gestures and words as we are all human. But what is more important is to forgive the person and forget the incident so that both the effected individual and a person responsible can enjoy peace of mind and have a happy relationship.

Clemency is probably the most difficult act to practice because even if we try to exercise forgiveness, we are often overwhelmed by our ego, fame, image and status. Many people do not realize that our self-esteem means nothing to live life with hurt and pain in our hearts for not forgiving...

So start forgiving... and its such a beautiful feeling... trust me...
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Here are 5 simple effective persuasion tactics you may use everyday to build loyal and lasting relationships.

# 1: Enter Their World.

Copy them. Observe how they act, how they speak, and how they think. If they rub their forehead while they think, act like them. If they speak at a clear and slow pace, try to do the same thing. This is called mirroring. In due time, the people you're mirroring will subconsciously feel more comfortable with you. It's as if they see themselves in you. However, you must proceed with caution. Do not let them be aware that you are copying them. They might interpret it as mockery and you'll just get into trouble.

# 2: Meet Their Existing Needs and Desires.

People are self-centered. They are initially concerned with their own well-being before others. If you can prove that your proposal will provide more advantageous benefits to them than to your own, then they will probably accept it. If you could focus more on their interests, desires, needs, and expectations, then you would satisfy their cravings for attention. Moreover, it would show that you really care about them. Mutual trust and respect would be established. Satisfy the "What's In It For Me?" test first, before convincing others to do what you want them to do.

# 3: Provide Them with Compelling Evidence.

Explain to them how your ideas or suggestions could be the most effective techniques to implement. Show them undeniable proof that you have the best product by way of testimonials, before and after scenarios, and detailed comparisons against your competitors. Just make sure that all your claims are true and verifiable. Always maintain a good reputation. Be friendly and nice. Smile to brighten up the day. Make a sincere compliment to raise their spirits. Little things like these count a lot. Make them feel that whenever they need help or just someone to look up to, you'll always be there to lend a hand. They would tend to be more receptive to people that they trust.

# 4: Communicate Wittingly But Clearly.

Most people, if not all, would like to be accepted and to be perceived as likeable in the eyes of others. But what if you have to tell something undesirable to your friend, which is just for his or her own good? How can you get your message across without hurting their feelings? Substitute negative statements with positive ones. Instead of saying "You don't understand," say "Let me explain." Instead of remarking "You're wrong," say "Permit me to clarify." Instead of stating "You failed to say," just mention "Perhaps this was not stated." There are certain words that affect a person more negatively in comparison with other words that have the same meaning.

# 5: Agree with Them First.

Nothing could be more pleasing to the ear than hearing someone else say that you are right. In this case, be prepared to let other people know that you respect their opinions. You may add your comments at the end, but acknowledge them first. Say: You're right, although . Great suggestion, however ... I agree with your opinion, however . I would feel the same way if I were you, although . I understand your situation, however . Reassure your counterparts that the decision made will benefit both parties. People need to feel that they have made the right choice.

another Good News

7:41 AM, Wednesday 27 February 2008 .. Posted in General .. 13 comments .. Link

Last Sunday, I have got a very good news. An owner of a hotel from Lumut offered me a job. Operation manager or resort manager, I am not so sure about it. But I will get back 'the position' ,same as at the island. Ky was so happy since he's the one who picked up the phone while I was 'not around'. He was so happy and yet he told me that I need to demand as much as I could. I was so happy but ..I need to move out again from the small town to another small and busy town. Actually Lumut and the island is not so far away. It's only 20-30 minutes by the ferry. But Lumut is the place we had the navy base.
The Chinese man who is the owner of one hotel at CTawan and a beach resort at Lumut. I prefer the beach resort since I love beach.He knows me from some managers at the island. Actually he does wanted me since last year but I can't just accept it since just started at Kampar. Well, I need to think a lot and fast since he told me 'My manager is leaving soon, so I need to see you and we can discuss a lot of things'.
Ky was happy. So did my parents. Mum told me 'Do the best for your own life'. Dad also keep on reminding me 'This is your third chance,after all it's not a distance from him. If you are thinking of going there, go for it my dear daughter!' Hmm..I love them so much. All are giving support to me. Before the day I got the offer, I was telling Ky and my parents that I want to go back to my hometown. Something's happened at the hotel which I can't take it. I feel like being cheated by the management. They are cheating me and made me going there. This is all about money concerned! I just want my right back. They are trying to change the method of commission paid and I was totally disaggree with it. I told my manager and my GM and they knew that I totally out of mind when having a discussion with them. Even my manager also doesn't agree but she told me to do the job before get another job. And she did went to the interview yesterday in KL.
After my colleague resigned, I was alone in the office and a lot of things to do. The manager also not around. I look happy since I have to make all the decision by myself but within the hotel's guideline. I am happy but I could cope out with work load.
They called me 'MOW'. What is that stands for. MONKEY OF THE WEEK. I was alone in the department. My manager went for outstation plus the interview. BB resigned. But..at least I have colleague from other department to accompany me for meals and drinks at the cafe or coffeehouse. Sounds so good but I managed to control everything even got screwed up things happened by the kitchen and F&B. From 25th to 28th,the religious Dept are having their seminar about zakat here. Even the head of the Dept, who signing the Halal certificate was here this morning.I was so happy to bring them here. Being around a lot of ustazs and ustazahs! Hahaha!
My sales forecast from March to August shown RM816K. And I am predicting of 80% to close the deal. Beside of the government sectors, I am also making business with the corporate and association.Even the church package are giving me a lot of business apart from the government. And...If..If ,...If I leave this place withtin two months, I am not sure I could get that figure for the next place. This made me in dilemma again. How could I leave when the bussiness was so well. But, it's not my own business. I have to bear the costing of the operation,government's tax. Almost 50 % from the sales revenue will be taken away from commmision distribution. Hmm..I couldn't be so generous and let the management take those things. :(

I need to think before the election day. I am not going to go for voting. It's so far away and need to think of my future. I am not a good citizen, some people might saying that, but I don't care.
Woooohhhh... I have writing too much. Should stop by now and go for the hotel's area and room inspection. Hmmm..The Monkey of the Week having a lovely job here.!!!!!

Big Headache!

1:50 AM, Wednesday 7 November 2007 .. Posted in General .. 6 comments .. Link

Another staff from my department tendered her resignation letter due to the pressure and working load...and yet I have to settle her works...while I still got a 'million' tonne of work. Those working paper sickening me!
But it's a challenge to me since this is consider a new style or we may call it fashion....Handling 3 wedding Chinese receptions with organiser which only could speak online Chinese...with a little bit of English and out of Malay language. Aiyoooo!
And another great event will be pass over to me soon..December event..hmm..when I am going to take my off day. But I don't have to worry since this company will let me go for replacement..but not my HOD. She....is...hmmm..don't know what to say but ..I don't want to get so personal close since..I can't see her suffer with her hectic life and furthermore she couldn't mixed up work with personal...yet..she always want me to stay late night...but not working...chatting with her..about her life...well....I have got a lot of work laaa....Please release me..For this Deepavali...I don't think it is an off day..

Thanks Keith

11:01 PM, Wednesday 26 September 2007 .. Posted in General .. 4 comments .. Link

I have got my old post back. Thanks Keith for all your effort towards all members of efx2.com. I am happy, coz I could read back from the first entry in efx2. That moment, I was jobless without monthly pay! I could see the difference of my life after getting a job in the island at the hotel.Then meeting a new person in my life which had completely changed me even there's an obstacle...a big one! But that is not a matter to me as life must go on. As usual..Life must go on.
Thanks Keith.

I think that would be my last visit to the hotel but I am not sure whether I would be going back again this weekend. It's so hard to leave the place. I have informed all my 'gm's friends about my leaving. One of my friend who is GG's uncle, Zm asked me 'Do you want to leave if I offer another place in Pangkor?' Hmm..I don't know but I have said no to him which he suspected that I have some kind of problems with my management now. He fetched me to the hotel which organised the breakfasting event. I didn't informed Ky since I thought he would be there with his superior. Until 7.30 pm, I don't see his face and I know he had listen to me since I told him better not going or we will be the center of attraction. Thanks God! Such a nice event which gathered the Pangkor MP, Dato Zambri and his 'konco2 nya'. Some of Pangkor villagers also attended that lovely evening breakfasting time. All my friends are there and I enjoyed meeting them and eating the delicious meal. But I didn't take much food.
Ky visited me and went for a drink with another friend at the mamak stall(which I won't forget this sentimental value place). Actually the guy is our friend and a dear friend to me which I could saw Ky's face turned to red when the guy really had mentioned about bring me out for breakfasting in Ipoh(which of course Ky is not coming along). And that guy doesn't know about me and Ky. Hahaha! It was really funny when Mr B told me 'After resigned, why don't you work for my hotel or for me?Working for my hotel should be no problem for you, but working for me...well, Ky,a lot of work kan?? Ky who sat next to me just 'tersengih macam kerang busuk and just nodded his head. Iyarkk! I guessed we're really acting in front of Mr B. I have made an appointment with Mr B to breakfasting here in Ipoh this evening if he comes down from Pangkor. Ky never mention about this after Mr B left. I know he doesn't care if I am going out with another guy...there's nothing he could gain by being jealous since he knows me well. Of course Mr Bob is my friend,he's the chairman of Pkr Hotel Association.
I have arrived this morning at 10.00 am with two 'big' salted fish to give to a taxi driver who had ordered since last week. Hahaha! I am the seller of salted fish!

That salted fish cost is RM50 and I believe the wife of that taxi driver will love him more for buying that expensive salted fish.

The meaning

11:51 AM, Saturday 22 September 2007 .. Posted in General .. 4 comments .. Link

All these while, i myself main hentam baca without really understand the meaning. Here you go, may all our Shalats di terima Allah Taa'la. Amin.

Doa Iftitah
Allah Maha Besar dan segala puji bagi Allah dengan banyaknya.
Maha suci Allah sepanjang pagi dan petang.
Aku hadapkan wajahku bagi Tuhan yang mencipta langit dan bumi,
dengan suasana lurus dan berserah diri dan aku bukan dari golongan orang musyrik.
Sesungguhnya solatku,
Ibadatku,
hidupku,
matiku
adalah untuk Allah Tuhan sekelian alam.
Tidak ada sekutu bagiNya dan kepadaku diperintahkan untuk tidak
menyekutukan bagiNya dan aku dari golongan orang Islam.

Al-Fatihah
Dengan nama Allah yang maha Pemurah lagi maha Mengasihani.
Segala puji bagi Allah, Tuhan semesta alam.
Yang maha pemurah lagi maha mengasihani.
Yang menguasai hari pembalasan.
Hanya Engkaulah yang kami sembah dan hanya kepada Engkau kami mohon pertolongan.
Tunjukilah kami jalan yang lurus.
Iaitu jalan orang-orang yang Engkau kurniakan nikmat kepada mereka, bukan jalan mereka yang Engkau murkai dan bukan jalan mereka yang sesat.

Bacaan ketika rukuk
Maha Suci TuhanKu Yang Maha Mulia dan dengan segala puji-pujiannya.

Bacaan ketika bangun dari rukuk
Allah mendengar pujian orang yang memujinya.

Bacaan ketika iktidal
Wahai Tuhan kami, bagi Engkaulah segala pujian.

Bacaan ketika sujud
Maha suci TuhanKu yang Maha Tinggi dan dengan segala puji-pujiannya.

Bacaan ketika duduk di antara dua sujud
Ya Allah, ampunilah daku,
Rahmatilah daku,
kayakan daku,
angkatlah darjatku,
rezekikan daku,
berilah aku hidayah,
sihatkanlah daku dan
maafkanlah akan daku.

Bacaan ketika Tahiyat Awal
Segala penghormatan yang berkat solat yang baik adalah untuk Allah.
Sejahtera atas engkau wahai Nabi dan rahmat Allah serta
keberkatannya.
Sejahtera ke atas kami dan atas hamba-hamba Allah yang soleh.
Aku naik saksi bahawa tiada Tuhan melainkan Allah dan aku naik saksi bahawasanya Muhammad itu adalah pesuruh Allah.
Ya Tuhan kami, selawatkanlah ke atas Nabi Muhammad.

Bacaan ketika Tahiyat Akhir
Segala penghormatan yang berkat solat yang baik adalah untuk Allah.
Sejahtera atas engkau wahai Nabi dan rahmat Allah serta keberkatannya.
Sejahtera ke atas kami dan atas hamba-hamba Allah yang soleh.
Aku naik saksi bahawa tiada Tuhan melainkan Allah dan aku naik saksi bahawasanya Muhammad itu adalah pesuruh Allah.
Ya Tuhan kami, selawatkanlah ke atas Nabi Muhammad dan ke atas keluarganya.
Sebagaimana Engkau selawatkan ke atas Ibrahim dan atas keluarga Ibrahim.
Berkatilah ke atas Muhammad dan atas keluarganya sebagaimana Engkau berkati ke atas Ibrahim dan atas keluarga Ibrahim di dalam alam ini.
Sesungguhnya Engkau Maha Terpuji lagi Maha Agung.

Doa Qunut
Ya Allah, berilah aku petunjuk sebagaimana orang-orang yang telah Engkau tunjuki.
Sejahterakanlah aku sebagaimana orang-orang yang telah Engkau sejahterakan.
Pimpinlah aku sebagaimana orang-orang yang telah Engkau pimpin.
Berkatilah hendaknya untukku apa-pa yang telah Engkau berikan padaku.
Jauhkanlah aku daripada segala kejahatan yang telah Engkau tetapkan.
Sesungguhnya hanya Engkau sahajalah yang menetapkan, dan tidak sesiapapun yang berkuasa menetapkan sesuatu selain daripada Engkau.
Sesungguhnya tidak terhina orang yang memperolehi pimpinanMu.
Dan tidak mulia orang-orang yang Engkau musuhi.
Telah memberi berkat Engkau, ya Tuhan kami dan maha tinggi Engkau.
Hanya untuk Engkau sahajalah segala macam puji terhadap apa-apa yang telah Engkau tetapkan.
Dan aku minta ampun dan bertaubat kepada Engkau.
Dan Allah rahmatilah Muhammad, Nabi yang ummi dan sejahtera keatas keluarganya dan sahabat-sahabatnya.

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